Dear
Birthfather,
Thank you for inquiring
about adoption. As an agency we would like to offer you
information and/or counseling if you like. There are
some things you should know and think about when trying to
decide what to do about an unplanned
pregnancy. At this point you may have just learned of the pregnancy
from the birthmother or been contacted by an agency. You have
options.
Your options
include parenting yourself or with your partner or making an
adoption plan. We assume since you are reading this letter you
or your partner are seriously considering adoption as a plan at
this time. Adoption can be an arrangement you make to insure
stability, love, and the best environment for your child when
you are unable to do so. Men, in general, tend to think of
adoption as giving up or not taking responsibility for their
actions. This in fact is an untrue statement. When learning of
an unplanned pregnancy part of taking responsibility is looking
at the facts and preparing the best plan possible for your
unborn child.
When considering
parenting, evaluate costs of childcare, food, hygiene materials
(diapers, wipes, etc) and of course emotional support and
parenting. If you are planning on providing emotional and
financial support for your child we ask you contact a counselor
to work out the best plan possible. If you do not think you can
be a significant part of this child’s life on a daily basis we
ask that you consider adoption.
When making an
adoption plan you are able to make decisions about your child’s
future as well. There are several options available to you
concerning what type of adoption you can have. You may have
anywhere from no contact to full contact.
You can meet the family if you would like or speak with them
over the phone. We know that as a father you want the best for
your child. If you feel that being involved in the adoption
process would be the best decision for you and your child we
welcome that decision.
Please contact an adoption counselor if you or your partner is considering adoption. We will offer as much information to help
you make an informed decision.
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